Forget it. It’s not your place. If you attempt to raise a hand in self-vindication, it will be sloppy work. Probably something that will require repentance and apologies down the road.
A swift answer is usually trouble. Leave it for the sit-coms you click by on your hundreds of TV channels. Slow down. Count to ten. Try to imagine a redeeming fact behind what was just said or done. Love thinketh no evil (1 Corinthians 13).
There have been times in my life when I have been abused or suspected. The Spirit has warned me to shut up and let God accomplish the retribution. If allowed it will accomplish blessing for both parties not possibly to be imagined. Those individuals, I learned later, had gone through knotholes of challenge where perhaps, just perhaps, they remembered Doug or others like him, and repented.
I have just read Jeremiah 51. The prophet has pronounced doom upon all of the nations surrounding Israel and abusing her. The last one mentioned is Babylon, seeking to overcome Jerusalem in the prophet’s time. Hear with the Spirit’s ear the 11th verse. Babylon will fall to the Medo-Persians:
11 Make bright the arrows; gather the shields: the Lord hath raised up the spirit of the kings of the Medes: for his device is against Babylon, to destroy it; because it is the vengeance of the Lord, the vengeance of his temple.
Imagine God raising His holy arm for the vengeance of His temple! We are His temple for the habitation of the Spirit. We have been told in all honesty that “all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution” (2 Timothy 3:12). So what’s the panic?